Enjoying the single life
Perhaps I was a better advocate for enjoying the single life back when I was actually enjoying the single life, but occasionally some of my friends express sadness or frustration with being single and I want to somehow magically help them feel better about their lives as-is.
All I have to offer is my own experience:
(1) The best romantic relationships in my adult life were/are with people I met via mutual friends. That's how I met KWC, Chuck, and Tod. Moose was recommended to me via his room-mate. Friends look out for each other, and your friends can help you to meet good dating material. Stop using online profile services to meet strangers, and spend more time with the people who already care about you: your friends.
(2) It is important to spend big chunks of your adult life as a single person. This is the time when you can explore life unencumbered. This is the time when you can make plans without having to consult anybody else. This is the time when you can play around and explore your sexual fantasies without worrying about emotional compability (as long as you play safely). This is the time when you get to decide when you clean the bathroom, or how to set the thermostat. Enjoy this time! Learn to stand on your own two feet.
That's really all I have to say on the subject.
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